08 July 2021

 

Hum ek dudsre se roz milte hai roz judte hai

hum ek dusre ke yaar hai

aaj ka dina pura hafta intezaar karte rehte hai

kyunki aaj sukhruwaar hai

 

raaste me gaadi chalate chalte dimag , dil se yehi baat karta hai..

aaj kahan khane jana hai?

Aur wo hai ke, aaj mujhe ush office nahi aana hai....

 

haan hum ek dusre ke yaar hai

aur haan aaj hi sukhruwaar hai....

 

mujhe sab se milene jaldi jana hai

taki yaar log se mujhe aaj milna hai

par raston me raaftar ki bhid badi lagi hai..

Oh mere yaar, wo intezaar kar raha hai, jabki use bhi bhuk lagi hai...

 

haan hum ek dusre ke yaar hai

aur haan aaj hi sukhruwaar hai....

 

har din ka sukh-dukh hume ek dusre se baantna hai..

age ke zindagi ke baare me ek dusre ko sambhalna hai...

oh, ye to mera wohi yaar hai, jise mere saath ish sukhruwaar se budhape tak sath khana, khana hai...

 

aaj ka dina pura hafta intezaar karte rehte hai

kyunki aaj sukhruwaar hai

29 June 2021

Har raat ek mere zehan se gujarti hai...

 

Poem: 1

Har raat ek mere zehan se gujarti hai...

 

Ek Arso baad aaj yaadon ki sandook maine kholi hai,

Usme se wo rooh kisi aur ki nahi bas teri hi hai...

 

Jise Main Jaanta Hoon Behtar khud Tumse Bhi,

Kyunki Who Rehti Thi Mere Saath Tumhare Jaane Ke Baad Bhi...

 

Ye Kaunsi mohabbat ka aandaaz har baar wo sikha jaati hai,

Wo Rooth kar bhi mujhse mushkurakar milti hai...

 

Soch ki manjeele, aaj paaon pakad chuki hai,

Phir bhi dil ka shauk, aaj bhi do-chaar kadam aage chalti hai...

 

 

haan wo aaj bhi haar raat mere zehan se gujarti hai...!!!

01 January 2018

Social Taboos In Indian Society

The Indian society has seen its revolutions and ages, it has seen its ups and downs and has come out to be a mixture of liberal and a conservative society. Sometimes a lot of people, like the youth, feel stuck because of the sheer contradiction that the Indian society has become over the time. It does give its people freedom, but also takes a huge chunk of it back the minute a new belief is formed without visiting logic.
Thus, because of all the additions, the Indian society is still plagued with a lot of taboos. Taboos which change the meaning of life for some and make some rebellious. Taboos that make India seem like a backward country which is just not willing to shed the extras it can easily do without.

Dressing Up

The traditional Indian wear is no doubt the most beautiful way of dressing up and it suits one and all but something as small as what the other person is wearing shouldn’t be the basis to judge a person. We all bear the brunt of judgements being thrown our way, just because the society feels we don’t dress appropriately. The society should ideally give the freedom of choice to all its members. It should let people wear what they want and concentrate on the good and the bad in people.

Marriages

The hot topic of every era, this has been in the news for the longest time. Whether it is inter-cast, inter-religious, or same sex, people have something to say about it. Indian society still believes in a very set pattern of marriage and anything that deviates from that gets the bashing. Ideally, marriage is something that binds two people for the rest of their life and the society should give that space to those two people to decide how or when they get married.

Indulging

Indulging is a word that has lately been used in a negative connotation a lot. Indulging is often thought of as something done for the wrong purpose, like getting drunk, smoking, doing drugs. Indians often forget that more than half of the population is busy getting indulged, which makes it a majority and very common thing. What we need to realize is that it is an individual choice and it has absolutely nothing to do with what sort of an upbringing they’ve received or what sort of a person they’ve become.

Religion

Not following the religion and the traditions is seen as the worst thing an Indian can ever do. It has been spoken about, ridiculed and people have been shunned because of it. If India ever wants to become a liberal country, it should start accepting that it is the choice of the person to follow whatever they wish to, it doesn’t mean they are disrespecting your culture or religion, it simply means that they don’t like it for themselves.

Sex Before Marriage

The most looked down upon because we are just not ready to accept that people do have sex before marriage. As absurd as it may sound, there is more pressure from the society than the stress of being pregnant. We, as a nation, need to step out of our thought bubble and see what is actually happening around us. It is an inevitable truth that people sleep together and none of the safety measures are 100% safe, so this can happen to any of us.
To get rid of the taboos that make Indians intolerant, we just need to be a little more patient and open-minded when it comes to others. I agree that a mistake will always be a mistake, but declaring that something is wrong without even looking at its pros and cons will keep holding us back, now and forever. Let’s try to bring our country out of the idea that taboos are a part of our tradition and religion and do away with the beliefs that just leave India crippled.

Top 5 myths about India...


Top 5 myths about India

photograph of snake charmers in Jaipur, India
snake charmers in Jaipur, India

Myth #1: Traveling in India is dangerous

Before I went to India for the first time, I was warned to my teeth about how dirty and dangerous India is, especially by the doctor at the travel medical clinic. She really tried to put the fear of disease into me, and I went to India the first time loaded with precautionary supplies, pills and additional health insurance. Then I landed in Delhi at the very civilized home of my friend Ajay, who lives with his family in the Delhi equivalent of Forest Hill (one of the most upscale neighbourhoods in Toronto), and they laughed at all my stuff. When I did get sick I went to the local Max Medical Centre and after waiting about 10 or 15 minutes I got to see the British-trained head of internal medicine. The medical centre was spotlessly clean, modern and efficient, better than almost anything I’ve seen in Canada, and the visit cost 500 rupees or about $10.
At this point in my journey, about 10 days in, something began to dawn on me. I realized that many people in Canada, including me, were of the idea that India is a barbaric place. In fact, I found it to be very civilized. I no longer carry all those supplies and pills, I no longer buy extra health insurance. I practice caution, but I don’t assume the worst, I assume the best. And guess what?
This is what I have come to believe through my own experiences and those of many people I know: India will mirror back to you your own attitude, feelings, prejudices, barriers and limitations – and India will evoke your higher self, too. It can be very painful to see how impatient, judgmental, middle-class, naïve and unkind you can be! And very uplifting to discover your compassion, open-mindedness and spiritual awareness.
But I really do believe India knows best. India is like a guru who gives you the experiences you need to move you along your path. I often say that going to India is like that scene in Star Wars when Yoda sends Luke into the cave. Luke asks, “what will I find there?” and Yoda answers, “only what you bring in with you.” So if you are afraid, you will have scary experiences. And if you are open and trusting (within reason), you will find kind, helpful people who can really help smooth over the unavoidable challenges to travel in India.

Myth #2: India is a country

photograph of turban wearer in Pushkar, Rajasthan, India
Pushkar, Rajasthan, India
India is often called the subcontinent, and there’s a reason. It is more like a continent or the European Union than a country like Canada, which is fairly homogenous from one end to the other, multiculturalism, natives and Newfies notwithstanding.
In fact, not so long ago – before and even during the Raj, the British colonial period – India was a nation of princely states, not unlike the city states of Italy; and before that, powerful rulers – who often attained that power through conquest and invasion – reigned over vast tracts of the country. The result is that India is an extremely diverse nation. As you travel from one part of the country to another, you meet people with very different linguistic, cultural and even ethnic backgrounds. In the south, the people are descended from the Dravidian culture. In the north, which was subject to many more waves of invaders and conquerors, the people are of Aryan descent. Rajputs from Rajasthan are about as similar to the Christians of Goa as an English peer is to a Greek fisherman.
There are 14 official languages – each state has its own official language – and just about every religion the world has to offer. Four of the world’s great religions were born in India – Hinduism, Buddhism, Sikhism, and Jainism. Today, the vast majority – about 82% – are Hindus, but with a population of 1.2 billion, that still means that the other religions are well represented. Islam, with 12% of the population, has 144 million followers.
So don’t expect the food, language or customs to remain static as you travel. In the north, wheat is commonly eaten as bread (naan, poori, roti, parantha, chapati, etc.); in the south it’s all about rice. In the north many people speak Hindi – but in the south, very few.
photograph of fishermen in Kovalam, Kerala, India
Fishermen in Kerala

Myth #3: Yoga is a system of exercises

Yoga was lost in translation. It did not survive the transatlantic voyage. What we have in the west is but a shadow of yoga’s full stature. You are forgiven for not knowing this; I also did not know until I went to India to study yoga.
Shiva, god of yoga, in Rishikesh, India
Shiva, god of yoga, in Rishikesh, India
Yoga is one of the six schools (darshanas) of Hinduism, and one of the four that adhere to the advaita tradition. This is the belief in one truth, one consciousness, and all is god. Beneath the apparent duality of life – which is illusion, maia – all is one. The point of yoga is to still your mind so that you can become aware of this truth, and act accordingly.
If you did not get this idea from going to a yoga studio in a western country, you would not be alone.
In the classical system of yoga, known as Raja Yoga, there are eight limbs. One of them is asana, or the physical practise of postures. The point of the postures is to create and maintain bodily health so that you have the vigour to follow the other seven limbs, such as meditation.
In one of the most important books of yoga, Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras, asana is mentioned only three times, while meditation is mentioned many times. Meditation is one of the primary tools for achieving the awareness of truth – thus it is far more “important.”
My teacher in India, Swami Brahmdev, does not teach asana. He answers questions during satsang, chants during evening meditation and founded and runs a beautiful, peaceful, garden-like ashram for people who want to live in a spiritually focused environment. There is an asana teacher at the ashram, but the ashram does not revolve around asana practise. Not at all.

Myth #4: India is poor

Many people in India are materially impoverished compared to middle-class Canadians, but that does not make them poor. I have become very leery of labeling others as poor, disenfranchised and marginalized. I know this is a politically correct thing to do, but it sticks in my craw. Seriously, how dare we? How dare we be so judgmental? And doesn’t that just serve to make so-called “poor, disenfranchised and marginalized” people into victims, further exacerbating any problems they may have? I personally like to believe in my own abilities to survive and overcome, and I resent anyone who tells me I am a disenfranchised woman.
photograph of pilgrims watching the sunrise in Kanyakumari, Tamil Nadu, India
pilgrims watching the sunrise in Kanyakumari, Tamil Nadu, India
I have to say my mind was really turned around on this issue by my teacher in India, Swami Brahmdev who said, “Do not judge someone as poor. You do not know how rich a person is inside.” He then went on to tell us about the sweet contentment of the “poor” man who sells vegetables to the ashram and who leads a very simple, but satisfying, life.
In fact, generally speaking, I find the people of India to be on the whole much more content, much warmer and more generous than the materially richer people of the west. I now feel that western spiritual poverty is just as unhealthy and probably a lot more destructive to the planet than material poverty. If everyone on the planet lived that way a middle-class Canadian lived, the world’s resources would be used up by the next Commonwealth Games.

Myth #5: Hinduism is a religion

photograph of Krishna at Sivananda Ashram, Kerala, India
Krishna at Sivananda Ashram, Kerala, India
Hinduism is the world’s oldest extant religion and has a billion followers, which makes it the world’s third largest religion. But Hinduism is not strictly a religion, as we think of it in the west.  It was not founded by one person, it does not have a core doctrine, there is no central authority, it does not require followers to accept any one idea, and no on can agree on when or even where it began.
The origins of Hinduism are lost in time, and are highly disputed. Scholars now believe Hinduism arose as long ago as 10,000 B.C. The earliest of the Hindu scriptures – The Rig Veda – could have been composed before 6,500 B.C. But the word Hinduism itself is not to be found in any of the scriptures. It was named after the people of Sindh, who settled between the rivers Indus and Sindh in what is now Pakistan. The Persians named people of Sindh “Hindus.”
Hinduism is a way of life – known as Dharma, the law that governs action. It is essentially a conglomeration of diverse religious, philosophical, and cultural ideas, beliefs and traditions. “It is characterized by the belief in reincarnation, one absolute being of multiple manifestations, the law of cause and effect, following the path of righteousness, and the desire for liberation from the cycle of births and deaths.” http://hinduism.about.com/od/basics/p/hinduismbasics.htm
The principal deities of Hinduism are Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva, sometimes referred to as the Hindu Trinity. Brahma is thought of as the creator, Vishnu as the sustainer of life, and Shiva is associated with dissolution and death. But many Hindus regard their gods and goddesses as manifestations of the Supreme God, Brahman  — and there are as many as 30 million manifestations. After a visit to India, Mark Twain wrote: “India has two million gods, and worships them all. In religion all other countries are paupers; India is the only millionaire.”

India’s gifts to the world

Sri Ramakrishna, a 19th century mystic highly revered in India, captured the spirit of Hinduism by saying, “there can be as many spiritual paths as there are spiritual aspirants and similarly there can be as many gods as there are moods, feelings and emotions within the individual believer.”
photograph pf Mariellen in Kerala
me in Kerala
Mythologist Joseph Campbell (who I consider to be one of my most influential teachers), expressed the essential difference between the philosophy of Hinduism and the monotheistic religions when he wrote: “The first principle of Indian thought, therefore, is that the ultimate reality is beyond description. It is something that can be experienced only by bringing the mind to a stop; and once experienced, it cannot be described to anyone in terms of the forms of this world. The truth, the ultimate truth, that is to say, is transcendent. It goes past, transcends, all speech, all images, anything that can possibly be said. … it is not only transcendent, it is also immanent, within all things. Everything in the world, therefore, is to be regarded as its manifestation. There is an important difference here between the Indian and the Western ideas. … Hinduism believes in the omnipresence of the Supreme God in every individual. There is no ‘fall.’ Man is not cut off from the divine. He requires only to bring the spontaneous activity of his mind to a state of stillness and he will experience that divine principle within him.”
Finally, historian Arnold Toynbee wrote my favourite description of Hinduism, which sums up what makes it so attractive to me: “There may or may not be only one single absolute truth and only one single ultimate way of salvation. We do not know. But we do know that there are more approaches to truth than one, and more means of salvation than one. … This is a hard saying for adherents of … Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, but it is a truism for Hindus. The spirit of mutual good-will, esteem, and veritable love … is the traditional spirit of the religions of the Indian family. This is one of India’s gifts to the world.”
phototgraph of sacred cow in Haridwar, India
sacred cow in Haridwar, India


26 December 2017

Taboos And The Indian Society!!


Every time I hear that India is developing, I smirk in my head. I think that how can India possibly grow when there are so many ideas or beliefs that are trying to pull it back down. We are yet to fight so many taboos, crimes, and injustice that we are way behind any of the countries that we wish to be like. Being rooted and following your culture is one thing, but twisting the cultural tales to make them sound totally different according to your own whims and fancies is way beyond ethical. I think we all, the youth and the other generations need to come together to fight the biggest foes of our society, the taboos. Let’s see what are the most common taboos in our society :
Menstruation – Talking about menstruation in public is wrong, it is definitely not a part of our culture and people who do it are not well-cultured or rooted. A girl undergoing menstruation is unclean, and thus should not be allowed to pray or do certain other things.
Sex – Speaking about sex in public is bad, it is not to be discussed, and doing anything that is even remotely sexual like masturbating is a crime. People also shy away from using birth control pills or condoms because going and asking for such things means that you are indulged in sexual activities.
Drinking and smoking – Drinking or smoking is catastrophic for health, no matter what quantity of alcohol you consume, you will reach a stage where you will be unable to fathom the reality and thus you will end up in danger. India is not a westernized nation, and no, alcohol cannot be a part of anybody’s lifestyle here.
Homosexuality – Homosexuality is queer, it is unnatural, it defies the law of nature and people who are homosexuals are under some bad influence. They all are high on something and don’t actually know what they are doing, they should be treated.
Inter-religion marriage – One should not be married outside of one’s own religion, it will only add to the population of the other religion. Also, we have a bias towards certain religions, we don’t exactly know what is wrong, but because we’ve been hearing it for ages, so it must be really wrong to marry someone of a different religion.
Divorce – People can kill each other fighting once they are married, but they shouldn’t get divorced, because what will the world say about them. The world which knows exactly nothing about what is happening between the two married individuals is entitled to have an opinion but the people concerned are not.

How To Break The Taboos

Whatever we hate talking about is a natural, normal human thing which people should probably know more about so that they can start accepting that all these things are as natural as breathing –
1. Instead of shying away from the topic, the more you talk about it the better it will be for you. People will know more and start thinking that sex and menstruation is something that happens with most of human beings and it is not bad.
2. Actually trying something before having an opinion about it or trying to understand the other person’s point of view might actually help in digesting the fact that we have moved on from juices to coffee to alcohol in public gatherings.
3. Nobody gets to decide the laws of nature, even nature doesn’t at times, then who are we to give a verdict. Live and let live, as long as you get to choose your sexuality, you should not have a problem with whatever others are doing.
4. Gossip, as a whole should be banned, it only gives rise to bigger taboos and misconceptions, and people are stupid enough to not reason with anything. They buy whatever is sold to them. Try and think before you just take on somebody else’s opinion as the general trend.
Taboos are nothing but a crippling impediment for our society, they should be uprooted and thrown away. Taboos just show how lazy we all have been because we never tried to ask that one why which could have changed hundreds of lives, we just kept listening and accepting whatever came out way. Let’s fight this one together and make the country free of the shackles of nonsensical beliefs.

18 July 2017

30 Interesting Facts You Probably Didn’t Know About Your Pee

Dogs are a man's best friend? A man is a man's worst enemy? All lies! A man's worst and best friend is actually, yes, pee. Think about it. It can extract you from painfully embarrassing situations, give you extra time to 'figure out' an answer during the exam, also just automatically keeps your insides healthy. Having said that, it will also inflict a lot of discomfort when you are attending that very serious meeting, or while you are travelling or when you are all warm and snuggly inside a blanket and the movie has reached the climax. Basically it all depends on the situation, really.
If these arguments do not convince you then just trust the Romans. They had an unhealthy obsession with pee. They loved pee - not 'to pee' - just the thing itself. It was all quite bizarre.

So, we have collected a few facts about mankind's best frenemy because keep your friends close and enemies closer and all that. (Also because what was up with the Romans?!)

1. A person pees seven times on an average. If one pees more frequently or lesser than that, it is not something to really worry about.

2. An average healthy person's peeing lasts for about 7 seconds. If one feels the urgent need to pee and the peeing lasts for only 2 seconds or so, one might be suffering from an infection.

Source: Dr. Shem

3. The bladder of an adult can hold anything from 300 to 500 ml of urine.

4. The Romans gargled using their pee. The explanation is that urine contains ammonia which whitens teeth (which, if you ask me is not good enough).

5. The body only retains the essential products, the unwanted by-products leave the body as urine and stool.

6. The colour of your pee is indicative of your health. If it is clear then you are well hydrated, maybe even more than necessary; if it is pale yellow then you are hydrated enough; if dark yellow then less hydrated; If it is brown then it could be a serious liver infection; if red or pink then there is fresh blood in your urine.

Source: BuzzFeed

7. If your pee has a sweet smell then it might be indicative of diabetes.

8. But if one's pee has a foul smell then it indicates that the kidneys are probably spilling glucose or protein into the urine.

9. Diabetes is known as 'madhumeha' in Hindi, which roughly translates to 'honey urine'. Indian physicians Sushruta and Charaka were probably the first to distinguish Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes. It was in circa 400-500 CE.

10. There is a condition called oliguria, where you don't pee enough.

11. Urea present in pee is an exfoliator. A synthetic version of urea is a component in skin moisturisers.

12. Your pee contains 3,000 components including sodium, potassium and chloride.

Source: Giphy

13. Consumption of eatables such as tuna, spicy food and coffee can change the odour of your pee.

14. Urine was used to create gunpowder, because of its nitrogen quotient. In fact, the method that utilised pee was used for about a hundred years.

Source: Flickr

15. Bear Grylls is an expert survivor, who is also famous for drinking his pee. Closer to home, we had Morarji Desai who was a practitioner of urine therapy that involves using urine in many cosmetic and medicinal therapies and drinking of one's own urine.

16. Unlike what a lot of people might believe, if one is lost in the wilderness with no water in hand, it is not advisable to drink one's urine because it contains a high amount of salt and that accelerates dehydration.

Source: Sigma Bold

17. There are 96 bags of urine, feces, and vomit lying around on the surface of the moon along with around 1,81,437 kg of man-made material.

18. The medieval textile used urine extensively. In Elizabethan England, stale pee was used to dye fabrics. The Romans also used urine to tan leather and bleach wool and linen.

19. In the 1930s penicillin was very precious. To conserve it, people used to extract it from the urine of patients who had consumed penicillin.

20. Parauresis or pee shyness is a condition that renders a person unable to pee if there are people nearby.

Source: Words

21. The Roman emperor Nero levied urine tax. Urine was so precious that merchants went from door to door buying pee. Nero saw the opportunity and took it. He levied a tax which added to the imperial treasury.

22. If you emerge from a public pool smelling like 'chlorine' then it probably means that it is the smell of chloramine mixed with human pee. The stronger the 'chlorine' stench, the dirtier the pool.

Source: Blogto

23. Stress Urinary Incontinence - when you leak pee when you laugh, sneeze or exercise. "I laughed so hard, I peed" is a very valid expression.

24. During the World War 1, Canadian soldiers soaked up socks or handkerchiefs in their own urine and tied them around their faces, as gas masks. The ammonia in urine neutralised the chlorine and the water dissolved it, enabling the soldiers to breathe.

Source: BBC

25. Women in Rome used to drink the very poisonous turpentine only to make their pee smell good. Man, the Romans, I tell you.

26. Unlike popular belief, it does not help if one urinates on a jellyfish sting. A moment of silence for all those who have been peed upon.

Source: Pinterest

27. A company called E3 Technologies uses urine to create power. They use urine to create hydrogen while doing away with the ammonia so that it is not released into air.

28. There is something called 'morning pee', which is highly acidic. The body secretes acids while sleeping, which leaves the body as waste during the morning pee. And as the day progresses the pee becomes gradually more basic.

Source: Pinterest

29. The pee stream of women is wider than men's.

30. Unlike what a lot of people believe, the first time a baby pees is not after its birth but when it is in the womb. It starts peeing into the amniotic fluid.

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